Are You Taking Life Changing Responsibility for Your Future?

I am in a coaching program and today our mentor gave us a dose of "tough love" on the subject of taking personal responsibility for our future. I needed to hear that message from her, as I have not been playing 'full out' to create my future to what I want it to be by creating financial freedom. This is a personal growth issue for me and it made me think about taking responsibility for my future. Therefore, I decided to write about it.

How well are you doing with taking responsibility for your future? Is the way you live your life a “life changing opportunity”? Are you living a “life by default” (which means a life where you are just going through the motions) or are you creating “a life by design”? That means that you know what you want to create in your future, you’ve found the vehicle that will get your to your chosen destination, and you are taking immediate action with a game plan.  You are creating your future financial success.

 Is your future yours OR is it someone else's?  That may sound like a strange question to you. However, lots of people have difficulty claiming their future.  Most people really do not have an action plan that will get them to their destination? So, do YOU own your future?
1.  I know what matters most to me.  I am clear about what I want in my life and I honor my inspirations when I am following my path.
2.  I take full responsibility of my past present and future.  Everything that has happened in my past, my present, and my future is a result of the choices that I have made, the thoughts I’ve thought, the beliefs that I’ve had, and the actions I’ve taken. 
3.  When bad things happen in my life I understand that I am the sole creator of those situations — even the really bad things. Can you take responsibility for these things even when they don't "seem" like your fault?
4.  I spend time each day creating my future.  I visualize events happening just the way I would want them to and I take actions each day that are inspired by my decision to follow my bliss. 
5.  I am a “responder” versus a “reactor”.  (Learning to “respond” requires inner power and “reacting” means you’re giving your power away).  I choose to respond to my life which means that I choose my thoughts and emotions in each situation. I support and honor the goals and vision that I want to achieve.  When I have thoughts and emotions that are not in line with what I want, I deliberately change them because they will contribute to my personal success.
6. Creating my future is a never ending process that never "gets done". Therefore, I freely give up the burden of having to accomplish anything with pain.  Instead I choose to create with joy.  
7.  I understand that my future goals are more than just a destination. My future depends on my  choice to set goals that matter to me and I learn from them as I evolve.  I am the student, the teacher in my life, and a life-long learner. 
If you answered “YES” to 7 of these questions; then, you own and claim your future! You are making each moment a “life changing opportunity”. Therefore, you need to take pride in the thoughts, beliefs, and actions because it’s first step to creating the life that you desire.  If you answered “NO” to any of these questions consider integrating them into your life and be sensitive to the changes that occur in you life because of it. 

I want to encourage you to take total personal responsibility for your future. You are the only one that can claim your future and own your future. However, until you make a decision to make this a “life changing opportunity” to own your future; you will give your power away to someone or something else. 
If you need to hire a coach or mentor to help you create the future you want, you might consider doing this. This is an investment in your personal growth. This is 'your life' and you are the only one that can change it. I've learned that nobody is coming to save me. LOL!  
Think about what it means to "own" something.  You have power over that thing.  You make the decision about how that thing will serve you whether it is your car, your house, or your “online business.”  What kind of internal shift would you make just by making the statement that you "own your future"? 
Your future is there to serve you; and not for you to serve it.   This perspective will make you a very powerful creator.  Therefore, you need to become a conscious creator today; and claim your future by owning it. 
Please leave your comment below and tell me what you learned and how I can assist and serve you.   

How We Act and React Is Indicative of Our Personal Growth Level

"HOW" we are and "WHO" we are; is always showing up and is indicative of our level of personal growth and level of emotional maturity. 
When I was raising my son, I used to tell him to be careful of how he acted and reacted because people are always watching us and would be watching him. They are making mental and emotional decisions about how they feel and what they think about us. How people feel about us is going to affect everything in our lives. Will they support us when we need support? Will they vote for us as the class president? Will they respect us when we have something to say in the class discussion or will they snicker at us behind our backs?
So, let's talk about how you act. What does your behavior say about you? How are you 'BEING'? Are you kind? Are you compassionate? Are you generous? Do you take or give credit to others? Do you speak encouraging words? Do you speak about people’s strengths to others? Do you work enthusiastically? Do you do what you say you will do? Do you tell your truth when it could be a contribution? Do you listen to empower others? Are you taking responsibility for all aspects of your behavior?
How you and I act creates our value in the world and to the people around us like our family, friends, coworkers, and clients. When we act with excellence, speak with excellence, listen with excellence, and behave as excellent a person as we can in the moment; we are valued, we are attractive, we are trusted, and we are loved.
Do these things every day to improve how you act:
  1. Make a commitment to SAY something kind to someone every day… and then increase it to every hour.
  2. Make the same commitment to DO something kind for someone every day. “Pay it Forward.”
  3. Make the same commitment to LISTEN to someone. I mean to learn to listen from your heart (not your mind) and to really listen to what they are saying, what they are NOT saying, what they really want to say, and how they feel.  Listen to someone at the therapeutic level once a day. This is a skill I had to learn as a counselor. (Now, learning effective listening skills is another topic). 🙂
  4. Audit your conversations. Develop the habit of asking yourself after each statement, “What was my motive in saying what I said and how I said it? Was it to contribute to the person or to make myself look good?” Then ask yourself how you feel about someone who speaks to make themselves look good, more important than you, or more “right” than you do.
  5. Make a bold request every day that will improve a relationship, business productivity, or will help  improve the life of another person. For example, make a bold request that a friend or loved one stop speaking negatively about himself/herself by battering their own poor self-esteem. Or make a request that your spouse do something that you know will improve your love and relationship. When bold requests are made out of the context of support and improvement, they are often the encouragement that leads a person to act with excellence and change their way of 'BEING". Changing their behavior is part of personal growth and transformation which will "change their life." 
How You React or Do YOU React?: If actions are those things we think about before doing them, then reactions are those things we do WITHOUT thinking. They are our built-in boomerang over which we may feel we have no control or personal responsibility. Most people react in negative and destructive ways. These negative behaviors also are an indication of their need for their personal growth. People that "react" need to do lots of inner work and learn many new skills in their personal growth. 
We can develop new “reactions” and new ways of "responding" by developing new interpretations and habits.
Here are some examples:
  1. When someone speaks down to you, what do you think and how do you feel about it? What is your reaction? Do you think they think you are smaller and less than them? Do you think they may be right? Do you react with anger and retaliation or do you shut down? What if when someone spoke down to you and you “interpreted” that they, themselves were feeling small, and could really use a lift up. This new interpretation gives you a perfect opportunity to engage yourself in improving how you 'act' rather than 'react'. 
  2. When someone is late, do you think they disrespected you? How do you retaliate? What if you interpreted their being late due feeling overwhelmed, maybe they had a sick child, or something happened on the way to meet you that caused them to be late. I think we should always give people the benefit of the doubt unless it is their constant pattern. The point is that when we react it is always a matter of a personal growth issue.
  1. When someone in authority tells you “no” or 'tells' you to do something versus 'asks'; how do you react? Or, do you take it in stride and respond. What if you interpreted that this person in authority is working on their path of compassionate leadership; that they have more responsibilities than they can often handle, and they need support. We can choose new interpretations for other people's behavior. 
These are the kinds of things I taught my son when he was growing up. Therefore, it made his life so much more enjoyable because he learned to be compassionate, saw the good in others, understood that people are always doing the best they know how to do in their situation, that we are all imperfect human beings, that showing empathy towards others blesses them as well as ourselves. He learned that having friends makes life easier versus having people that don't like you because of how you 'show up' and how our behavior affects other people….
Please leave your comment below and tell me your thoughts on this article such as:
1.  How did this article affect you?
2.  How can I help you?
3.  What kind of reactions do you have that affect your relationships?
4.  What sentence brought up a negative reaction for you?
5.  What aspect of your behavior needs some personal growth?
6.  And, anything else that will help me be of service to you.  🙂:)