Transformation Happens When We Push Through Our Comfort Zone

Our transformational journey and personal growth will be tested many times by the decisions we make about getting outside our comfort zone. Most people do not like getting outside their comfort zone and deliberately make some changes to their life. Throughout various times in my life I have stayed inside this comfort zone. However, the truth is that our greatest growth in life comes from pushing through our present comfort zone.
 
This process starts at birth. A baby feels safe, warm, and secure in its mother’s womb. However, to stay there much longer than the gestation period would mean certain death for both the mother and child. Life began for all of us as we left the comfort and security of the womb and faced the strange and unfamiliar world outside. Our first breath is often a painful experience and a cry of protest at the temporary discomfort. Yet, without this experience, a baby's life would be very short.

Each milestone of growth and accomplishment for a young child involves leaving an existing comfort zone. The first crawl, the first step, many new first experiences all push from the familiar comfort zone into the unknown. For the child the process of pushing through their area of comfort leads to increasing independence and the formation of their unique personality and character. This foundational principle continues into adult life. But, what is so amazing to watch in children is that they don't look at these developmental stages as getting outside their comfort zones. Babies and children are just living in the moment and doing what is natural. We, as adults, have a lot to learn from babies and toddlers.

 
A child's risk of falling when taking those first faltering steps is high. Yet, what a transformation there is to a child's life once they have mastered the skill of walking. Their lives will never be the same again as limitless possibilities are opened up for them now that they can walk. The falls and tumbles are soon forgotten and overshadowed by their new adventures and experiences. They have pushed through their comfort zone. 
 
In order to enrich our life, it is necessary to step out of our present comfort zone. Personal growth occurs when a person moves out of their area of comfort and into the unknown challenge of a fresh experience. There is a stage of risk and discomfort before any significant growth in our life. For each of them comes a point where we hold back and resist. It becomes easier to remain static and comfortable than to keep moving forward.

So, what holds us back? Well, whenever we consider taking on a new project, or venture, or we want to put ourselves out there we will feel fear. FEAR is natural and is to be expected. It is our body's way of letting us know we are moving out of our comfort zone. Fear can alert us to possible threats and dangers. However, unlike our cave men predecessors, many of the threats today are not life threatening. Fear can warn you and enable you to be more aware and cautious, but they don't need to stop you from progressing. If you want to move forward on the journey towards where you want to be, you will have to confront your fears. Unfortunately, many people will allow fear to stop them. Therefore, they don't achieve their goals and aspirations.
 
Fear does not feel comfortable and many people want to avoid it at all costs. Everyone experiences fear. However, people who want to be successful feel the fear and do it anyway! Fear is part of the package. Yes, there is always a risk of failure, but that needs to balance with the old phrase, "Nothing Ventured, Nothing Gained." What many people don't realize is that this fear is not real… It is all within them. 
 
If they only knew that "WHEN"  they get into 'ACTION' the fear disappears. Also, the good news is that once we have faced our fears and done it anyway, we have moved forward to a new place. Every time we push through and live out of our comfort zone, we will never be the same simply; because of our personal growth in leaving the comfort zone.
 
Pushing through to leave your comfort zone is hard work. Nature demonstrates that graphically for us. The chick pecking its way out of the shell, the butterfly struggling from its cocoon, illustrates how that struggle is necessary in order to bring life, growth, success, and personal growth. I, personally, have experienced these kinds of struggles as I allowing myself to push through uncomfortable stage.

Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr. US Supreme Court Justice, once said: 

"Man's mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains its original dimensions."

I believe this is true of not only our mind, but also of who we are as unique people. Life moves into a new dimension through each experience and each transition that we go through in life. However, once we have been through this personal growth of pushing through our comfort zone, we can NEVER go back to original starting place.  We are now a different person with a different level of consciousness.

 
However, there is also the possibility that once we have pushed through our comfort zone into a new place of growth, we rest there too long there, and will create a different comfort zone!  I encourage you to keep pushing through and moving forward towards growing your uniqueness and living your life fully as you push through your comfort zone into the world of possibilities. 
 
1. Please leave your comments below and tell me how I can assist you in getting out of your comfort zone.
 
2. Please leave a comment telling me of a time when you pushed your comfort zone, what happened, and what you were able to accomplish in your personal growth journey.

Personal Growth Skills Give Us Courage to Change Our Lives

It takes courage to make changes to our lives and these changes will test the depth of our personal growth/personal development skills. One of my favorite scriptures that has helped me so many times in my life when I was going through so many changes was:

Romans: 8:28. And, we know that all things work together for good for them that love God and are called to His purpose.
 
When any kind of change happens in your life– either by 'design' or by 'default' we must trust that is always working for our good.
   
However, when we are going through change the level of our personal growth maturity levels will be tested; and when we have internalized some important personal growth skills, they will give us more courage to change the course of our lives if we feel like we are stuck in a certain place. Personal growth skills can include having more feelings of confidence, less fear, having more resources, supportive family members, and a 'knowingness' that we can make the changes we want in our lives.

Most of us have been dissatisfied at times in our lives.  I know that I've been through times in my life where I've felt very unsatisfied. However, I didn't know what I needed to do to make things differently. Or, I was afraid of making the changes I thought I needed to make. Or, I allowed all of the excuses to come up about 'why' I couldn't make the changes I thought I wanted.

Many times, we wish things were different, but we're still resistant to doing something about it to change the dissatisfaction. Many times, I've felt like I didn't even know what I wanted and wished that somebody would just tell me what I wanted and needed to do. But, then would I do it when they made those suggestions? 

Making changes is difficult for many people simply, because most of us like to stay in our comfort zones. Many times, we waste a lot of time, just thinking about how our life could be different instead of actually doing something about it and therefore, we just stay in our comfort zone until…….

The research shows that most people who grew up in dysfunctional families have a tendency to stay in their comfort zones without actually stepping out and making some actual changes. This includes nearly everybody, including me. Most of us do not like to feel uncomfortable because it feels good to have that feeling of security and things being the same– as dysfunctional as it may be. It gives us a sense of 'knowingness' because we know how things stand; and we like that. We prefer things to be safe and secure although may just be an illusion. Even the 'little' changes that we choose for ourselves can often require months of emotional adjustment such as having a baby or moving to a new area. The truth is that most people do not like change!
 

However, when change happens that's out of our control, like being laid off from a job or a partner asking for a divorce, we often feel overwhelmed. At those times, we are forced to go through changes simply; because our situation has changed. It is at these times that most of our transformation will occur in our lives and we will acquire some new personal growth skills. All of a sudden, we are forced to make changes and all of a sudden, we realize that we 'can' do it. 

On an unconscious level, change can make you feel vulnerable and out of control, which reminds you of negative experiences from childhood when you were small and vulnerable. If you're not aware, you can unknowingly go into defensive, reactive behavior, expecting the worst and protecting yourself from your perceived enemies. 

However, as you allow yourself to go through the changes, you will feel yourself 'being' different. Your behavior may change as well as your beliefs. I've experienced this many times in my life–that when the crisis actually happened–that I could do it. All of a sudden, I had more self-confidence in my ability to make those needed changes and guess what? It actually felt good! I felt happy, motivated, and my life was exciting although I was in the middle of a crisis and going through tremendous changes.

Fortunately, with awareness, you can transform negative responses when they occur in the crisis and throughout the change. Your life is changing for the better although you may not see how it is all going to work out right away. However, if you can change your perception and interpretation, you can choose to see change as a gift, which can “change the course of your life.”
 
In addition, by making that choice, you can become open to the amazing opportunities that change offers you. In these opportunities, you will learn and grow in the process of this journey. So, what can you do when the world you know falls apart? Well, why don't you just learn to ride the waves of life during these times of changes happening in your life instead of trying to control everything? 

Yeah, that’s right—'don’t resist it'. You don't know where it is taking you. You are just going to have to trust the Divine in this process of changing your life although it may not have been your choice. Throughout these periods in my life, I've had to hold on to God and allow Him to lead me. Many times, I have felt like I was walking through the 'valley of death' with blinders on. 🙂

Here are some things that you can do to make peace with change:
1. Surrender and let the Universe take charge of your life. The Universe knows much better than us what will be for our best and highest good.

2. Stay open to the life lessons that the Universe/God wants to teach you. The Universe always wants you to learn about self-acceptance, self-esteem, and self-actualization. It always wants you to grow through your challenges and life transitions. There are so many things that the Universe wants you to learn. In other words, let yourself trust that everything is in Divine order for your life.

Remember: Whatever you do, don't forget to stay open to the good the Universe has in store for you.  When you look back ten years from now, you may be saying, "Even though I thought that the world had turned upside down and against me– those were the best years of my life!" Change is always working for our good and our level of personal growth gave us more courage to go through all of those changes.


Please leave your comments below and tell me about some of your experiences.

How can I assist you on your journey with changes that are happening in your life?